Yes it seems to be, but at the same time we impact our environments and each other.

Shucks.

Just as a thought, it's important to energize the parts of ourselves which give us strength and take fuel away from the parts which weaken us. That isn't to say we need to ignore the ugly bits, just make sure they have a back seat rather than a front seat on the adventure. I am discovering this more and more. It's funny how you can know a truth and yet learning to use it can be a whole different thing.

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It can be hard to say with relationships, they can be so complex, multi-dimensional, and we all have our weaknesses...

Staying positive is a state of self-control. It's been explained to me this way and it turned out they were right: it's because you get used to a state of negative thinking/reaction/flow, and have to train yourself to be positive instead. It takes works, and practice makes perfect as they say. It didn't all together feel right for me at first, but now I feel so much better. I still have stress problems, but I am on the whole a lot calmer and can deal with my dark side much more easily. We learn a certain state of mind, a way of responding, and if it's unnatural we have to learn to turn it into something positive. But that isn't to say we should ignore problems, inner feelings of concern or warning signs around us. We just need to focus on the good and ground ourselves in that healthy frame of mind so we can handle all the bad stuff with a stronger, calmer, clearer mind.

TruthSeeker, try to throw yourself into the things you love and tune out the negativity. The second you find yourself thinking negative thoughts, stop and re-direct your thoughts. Listen to some music, watch something inspiring, plan wonderful things for your forum, come here and make posts on topics you enjoy, make your own threads, read a fabulous book and lose yourself in its pages. That's what I do. Granted, it doesn't work a hundred percent of the time, but it does help.

Thanks you 2!!! I do try. This year, especially, I have been focusing on the positive. That's why sometimes....no, alot....when hub comes home from work and I feel that negativity, I see how long I can handle it before I have to leave the room...without saying anything......but what a drainer.

I spend a lot of time outdoors, looking at the sea....clouds, doing things on line...reading...little bit, 3 kids 2 dogs, 2 parrots...the fact that I get anything done half the time is a miracle. lol.

I am a total nut case in the house. I am not the "Normal" Mom. I get the kids going in crazy things. We are practical jokers, so we are always trying to out do each other...our littlest one, she is getting really creative and really fools us. Can now put on tears in a split second, have us all running, what's the matter...then BAM....HA HA HA...Got you all!

Taught my grey to stick out her tongue and wiggle it, like...neener neener neener, got her talkin up a storm....scolds the new puppy on cue. lol.

So I really focus on good energy in the house.

I do think something negative has attached itself to my hub though. Though he is spiritually awake, and aware, he scoffs at that idea, even though, I feel it to be true.

Frustrating!!!

Thanks for the advice.

Work can be frustrating, some especially so. I would urge you to stay calm in the situation but make sure you don't lose communication and trust with him.

Sounds like you're a great mom.

Does he open up about what's bothering him? Have you tried going to a park together for a picnik or go to movies or dinners? My hubby never wants to go anywhere or do anything except lie on the couch and watch gory films. Your children and parrot sound delightful. Maybe your husband should change jobs to something that suits him better.